thoughts of a quiet dreamer

“So few come and don’t go, Will you won’t you, be the one I’ll always know”

I have wanted to write this blog for quite sometime now, I don’t know what has really stopped me. There are instances when its really weighing on me to write it but I never do. So here I am finally writing it. What about to write about is truly an opinion and I don’t think or know that it applies to anyone but myself. It’s a reflection on my life and the people that have been apart of it. 

For the past several years I have thought about the people in my life, trying to understand what it is that bring certain people into your life at certain times, the effect that these people have on your life and why they are there in the first places. I have found the people that come in to my life fall into three categories. 

The Constant: 

This person is someone who is a big part of my life, someone who is there for me in big moments, sometimes been a close person who knows me very well, this person my not be in my life for certain periods of time but the time they are in my life out numbers the time spent away. Some of the most important people to me fall in this category, they are the people that have helped me become who I am at the core of things. These people to me don’t always have a good presence they have been a negative influence, someone who does things that I don’t believe in or approve of. This type of person has also in one example a person who has believed in me from the beginning knows what I am capable of and really may know me better than anyone. This group of people is the most interesting and important to me, there is a reason these people have been apart of my life constantly.  

The Weaver:

This group of people are the ones that come in and out of my life, some people that I thought were weavers have turned into constants. Right now a prime example of a weaver is back in my life, I have known this person for quite sometime and now they are back, they are good people. I am really happy to have this person around again its been nice, and they could end up becoming a constant but I doubt that. Its nothing wrong with that relationship I just don’t think they are intending to become a constant in my life. Weavers tend to be my past best friends of the past, they are in my life for spurts of time and weave in and out during certain times.  

The Filler:

The last group of people I have in my life are filler people, and I know your probably thinking that sounds a little harsh, but I would never put the people in this category that I didn’t think I was a filler person for them as well, they are actually kind of special because in a way I look at these people as angels God has sent me to help get me through paticular things in my life.  I think that there are people that come into our lives for certain amounts of time to help us for a particular reason. These people aren’t intended to stick around long, and when they leave its easier to deal with their departure. These filler people aren’t weavers and won’t ever become constants. It’s funny because two of the biggest people that fit into this category can be related to their times being when a very important constant to me was out of my life, both times it was the same constant. Fillers are there for me when I need someone I can grow close to quickly someone I feel like I can trust and ultimately I can trust them but they aren’t intended to stick around for long, they provide me with strengthen, sometimes weakness and a lesson to learn. This is the group of people that challenge me the most, fillers get me through the really hard stuff. 

I don’t intend to define who any particular person I know is in these three categories and I don’t mean any harm by writing this entry, its just something that I have been thinking about. I’m sure some people won’t agree with this and think that its stupid to categorize people like this but I’m sorry, that’s why I made it clear this was an opinion on my own life and relationships.